• Ben Pechey

Looking for Clarity?


Oh hello darling and welcome to January on benpechey.com. Now that the dust has settled on 2021 it is time to look ahead to a year full of possibilities. Over the next four weeks, we will look at terms that will help us on our paths to succeed in meeting the goals we want to achieve this year.


To start things off, I wanted to look at Clarity.


Clarity

noun

1.

the quality of being coherent and intelligible.

2.

the quality of transparency or purity.





With the ushering in of the new year, one of the key elements we’re expected to have is clarity. Clarity is the guiding tool on which we base our New Years Resolutions. It is supposedly the main method of making the new year better than the last. That all sounds divine, but what if you don’t have clarity?!


Like so many life subjects, clarity seems to be a privilege out of reach. Clarity ignores mental health, it ignores life admin and it assumes life is black and white. Clarity can be hard to find when there are so many other things going on.





When clarity is seemingly the only tool we’re supposed to use to figure out the new and next steps for our lives, it can feel very unrealistic. At this juncture, I would urge you to look to your gut. I mean your instincts, not your actual guts! You instinctively know what’s right and what’s wrong for you - and that doesn’t need to involve huge change just because it’s a new year.


So although all around the message of change blares loud, it doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong course. A new calendar is not the reason to change. Time is a social construct, something made up by men hundreds of years ago. We can therefore decide when something feels significant enough for it to be viewed as a marker for change.





I take each new day as a fresh start and some small way of reinvigorating my approach to life. You can do the same, take as much or as little as you need from social structures. You may have clarity, or you may not. Either way, you’re on the right path. Take my advice, and remember that you will always know what’s best for you!


Thank you for embarking with me on this small self-improvement piece, I will be back next week to explore how to increase our resilience. As always, I love you lots like jelly tots, until next time, uh buh bye.


Images shot by Ruth Pechey