• Ben Pechey

Where to find Resilience


Oh hello darling and welcome back to January on benpechey.com. This month I am exploring the behaviours we can apply to our actions to help us overcome the hurdles of 2022, placing us all in the best position to achieve our goals.


Today I want to wax lyrical about my love for Resilience.


Resilience

noun

1.

the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

2.

the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.





Resilience is often looked at as our method of bouncing back after small and large life events. This approach would suggest that we’re all capable of the same level of resilience. However, what this ignores are the differing experiences we have all been through.


Someone who has experienced more trauma could have more resilience than someone who hasn’t had as much trauma - but this is not a given. We can experience the same events and come out of them differently. One key thing is understanding how we can work on our resilience.





If you explore resilience in any way, you’ll find that there are five key elements, known as the Five Pillars of Resilience: Self Awareness, Mindfulness, Self Care, Positive Relationships and Purpose.


Self-awareness is being mindful of your personality, strengths and weaknesses. It also concerns the stressors in life and working out healthy coping mechanisms to help you naturally manage your stress. If you want to learn more - Google the Stress Bucket, and follow @radicaljoyco !


Mindfulness is an open awareness of the present. Observing your thoughts and feelings objectively, making sure you have compassion and are being kind. This is the opposite of letting life pass you by, and actively makes you more engaged in your life.


Self Care is an individual thing that each of us can perform for ourselves. At a very simple level, it is the maintenance we perform to care for ourselves. It is a key factor in building your resilience.


Positive Relationships are key for resilience, as these are the people who are there for us and care. A good positive relationship must be mutual. The more positive relationships we have, the more fulfilled and supported we will feel - and this helps build our support system which is key to resilience!





Purpose is hard to define and simple all at the same time. Purpose helps form the mindset and attitude we have toward others and the events we experience. Some use faith, some use social motivators - whatever works for you - they will help you see your purpose.


It may sound open and a bit new age, but keeping those pillars in your mind and your understanding, will help you to create a more resilient life - which considering the last two years, can only be a good thing! Combine the pillars and allow yourself an existence that feels better and compassionate!


Thank you for embarking with me on this small self-improvement piece, I will be back next week to explore the power of blooming. As always, I love you lots like jelly tots, until next time, uh buh bye.


Images shot by Ruth Pechey