Did you see a couple of weeks before Christmas I wore Uggs and asked your opinions? The responses was wild. Talk about divided, this was hotter than Brexit. First and foremost this was #content, but even as I slipped the warmest footwear known to humans on my feet, I was doubting myself.
Whether you agree with Uggs or not, that isn’t the point. It got me thinking about the unspoken unwritten rules that we all stick too. We don’t allow ourselves to do what we want, because of what we think we should do.
Even though we like something, we really dwell on whether we should or shouldn’t wear it. Take the Uggs, I sat for a good hour enjoying the warmth they were giving my cold cold toes. I kept saying to myself ‘Ben you can’t go out in them’.
Who made these rules up, and then told everyone, but also never said anything about it. I almost feel like I have to ask permission to wear something. As if somehow seeking validation from others that this is acceptable will make me feel okay...
Examples of said rules; glitter and sequins are for parties and Christmas only. Well sorry Karen, but if I want to rock a glitter nail, I bloody well will. It’s the unsaid things that are holding us back when realistically it is all pointless anyway.
Another one is that red is a festive colour, and we should avoid it in January. As you can see I am very happy rocking Red to toe, and think that actually, it is great to bring so much colour to grey January.
It is at moments like this, that I sit in front of a mirror and give myself a good firm talking too. The only person who you need permission from is you.
It all comes down to comfort, there are a lot of people who don’t like standing out. Christmas periods make them feel festive and so are more confident rocking a bold colour. I have no qualms standing out, I can’t avoid it really. So I think that the 4th of January is as good as any day to rock a full red lewk.
I want to use my first post of 2019 to inspire and empower. This isn’t just applicable to colours and sparkle. It can be applied to shopping in a different store, being non-binary, admitting you like the cheeky girls - we all worry what other people think about our choices. If you are happy, that should be enough.
It is enough.
You will never please everyone, to think that you will is a delusion. As long as you are happy, then I think that is all that matters. There are many times in life when the work of Roald Dahl is applicable, this is one of them. This comes from the Twits and is something we should all bear in mind;
“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely”
Oh, I wore the Uggs, and felt great...
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