• Ben Pechey

The Book of Non-Binary Joy


It is FINALLY the day. Today, my baby, passion project, my biggest achievement is released into the wild. This has been such a process for me. From initially thinking about what a book written by me might look like way back in July 2020, to submitting the manuscript in April 2021, and having very few revisions or edits, to getting my hands on a real copy just a month ago. 


I have cried, I have laughed, I have doubted myself, I have been scared, and I have questioned the book. However, the world has a plan, and through all of it, the book of Non-Binary Joy has made it here, and I cannot wait for you all to read it!





I wrote this book as a non-binary resource, for the community. There are not many books that do this, and I wanted this book to be a safe space for us! As an ally you can read it and take just as much from it, so don’t think this book isn’t for you!! 


Even if you aren’t non-binary, this book is here to help you be yourself - free from judgement and expectation - as you unlock more joy in your life. Take my hand, and let's start your journey of self-love today.





Whether you are at the start of your journey or have been on the wild ride of gender introspection for a long time, this guide is here to help you thrive as your authentic - and most fabulous - non-binary self. 


My publishers wrote this lovely passage about the book;


“With personal stories, valuable insights and interactive sections, this inspiring book covers a wide range of topics, including mental health, pleasure, fashion, understanding your past, allyship privilege and self-expression. Written with warmth and unapologetic humour, and with bold illustrations throughout, Ben Pechey has created the ultimate safe space for you to embrace your non-binary life and start living.” 





I am also so grateful for my early readers and fab icons who shared testimonials with me;


"This book is a joy to read! The Book of Non-Binary Joy is in perfect balance: direct, kind and deeply respectful explorations of what it means to be human, mixed with encouraging and purely prideful happiness. Beautifully illustrated and brilliantly witty, this is the book to help everyone expand their gender delight." 

Jeffrey Marsh, bestselling author of How To Be You


"The Book of Non-Binary Joy is full of wit, kind advice, encouragement, fun and wisdom! Let Ben take you by the hand for this fabulous ride into the expansiveness of our genders and communities, you will not regret it." 

Alex Iantaffi, author of Gender Trauma, How to Understand Your Gender, and Life Isn't Binary


"I'm so happy this book exists. As a trans man, it's a genuinely useful resource and as a trans person, it's a breath of fresh air for the focus to be on our ample, multi-faceted joy instead of simply the pain we experience at the hands of cis society." 

Freddy McConnell, writer and journalist


"The Book of Non-Binary Joy is just that. JOY. Every page is packed full of love, acceptance, encouragement and more. Ben's wit, charm and warmth leap off the page like a big friendly hug. I know this book will help LGBTQIA+ people on their gender journey and discovery. Thank you, Ben, from one of them." 

Dom&Ink


"This book speaks directly to the non-binary reader, because lets face it there aren't many that do, but rest assured it is for everyone. To read, to learn, to understand better another persons perspective is incredibly powerful. This book debunks common misconceptions and gives insightful and useful information that we all need. They discuss trauma and the wider context of living in a world that often doesn't support or accept you with a beautifully delicate, light hand - giving the reader a real sense of pride and joy that is often neglected when talking about these issues." 

Natalie Lee (Style Me Sunday)


"Honest, incisive and responsive writing. A commanding and nuanced conversation of representation, allyship and identity... a book I wished I'd had in my twenties." 

Jules Von Hep, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist


"As someone who has, within the last year or so, started that journey into my gender identity and everything that surrounds it, I loved this book. It was reassuring and helpful while refraining from simply telling you everything will be okay. It's great for those like me who have already been on their journey and want the reassurance that they're "doing it right". The author's voice really shines through with a pervasive sense of style that I enjoyed." 

NetGalley Reviewer


"This collection of insights provides a really wonderful overview of what it means to be non-binary, as a non-binary person myself I felt the love pouring out from the author and their words brought me so much joy."

NetGalley Reviewer


So if you haven’t got your copy yet, then now is the time! Order here


I would also like to thank you all for your support and love. The book was born here and planted the seed that has grown into the tree that is the book. From the bottom of my heart, thank you all endlessly. 


Shot by Rachel Pechey