Ignore it!

Recently I was in a makeup chair, having my hair and makeup done, and at no point was my trans identity ever factored into the conversation. It was a peaceful, and utterly pleasant experience.

It’s a strange thing, but I love it when my transness is ignored.

I’ll let that sink in.

I pause there, because the media has sold you the story that trans+ people are obsessed with being trans, and are desperate to shove it wholesale down your throat.

But, this couldn’t be further than the truth. In actual fact, some days I bring it up, either because I don’t have to, or because it just isn’t relevant. It’s not the first word that is on my mind when I wake up, and I truly don’t even think it is the most interesting thing about me.

Instead of focusing on my transness, you could ask me about;

The fact that my pupils react to light independently of each other, meaning my eyes don’t always match each other.

What I am passionate about.

What I am reading at the moment, which is Black Bag by Luke Kennard

Or you could ask what I would buy from IKEA right now.

There are a million things that make a person interesting, that aren’t related to their gender identity, and I think I did a pretty good job of helping you remember that!